January 14, 2013
Gettin’ Back To “Coupledom”
In case you forgot, your partner is the reason you’re a parent. I mean, it took two of you to make your beautiful offspring, right?
I’m willing to bet that with the exception of the occasional “surprise” out there, the two of you decided you wanted to build a family together. And the reason you did that is because you love each other unconditionally and life with your partner is better than life without.
Then the kids came and your partnership changed. Dramatically. And if you’re like most couples, some of the things about your relationship that brought you together in the first place have potentially disappeared post-parenthood.
So, how do you get back to “coupledom?” (“Coupledom” is the utopia you lived in pre-kids).
I’ve got some answers for you.
In the interest of time, they’re simple, but don’t let the simple nature of these ideas fool you: they work. Take action on these starting TODAY and I guarantee you’ll start to see those wonderful things about your partner magically re-appear.
xo-
Carrie
At the end of the video I invited you to share something very special on the blog. Take one minute and go do that now.
Then, if you’re feeling really inspired, when you’re done, copy what you wrote on the blog and paste it into a new email and send that off to your sweetie! I’m willing to bet some sparks will fly for you when you’re done!
I'm grateful for These coupledom ideas!
I had a few minutes to view this fun video .... So well done and packed with invaluable, crucial nuggets! You did it again Carrie! Thanks for sharing!I'm grateful for Do overs!
Do over! Do over! My honey left just now and I didn't linger. But lucky duck, I get to try on the "linger", later. And now to address your query: What I am loving about my honey this moment is his genuine willingness to grow with me, in ALL directions I check out. This is him being supportive, sure, but also brave. My honey is emotionally brave.I'm grateful for the hidden sparks I know are still there!
Thank you so much for addressing this topic - this has been a big one for me/us and I think you did a wonderful job of articulating the issue and finding meaningful solutions. I like that you offered up an easy, direct approach and didn't just say "you need a date night!". You have great wisdom, thank you again.I'm grateful for sunshine
This is a great post...i love the idea of lingering and finding my partner's eyes and having her catch me smiling at her. Besides my wife being truly an amazing mom, i love her ambition. she's so creative and passionate about her blog and trying to monetize her blog while offering really great value to people. She is an inspiration to me as i continue down my own entreprenuerial path!I'm grateful for The time with my daughter this morning before work
Great topic and really helpful ideas. Simple and straightforward but I think we could spend a lifetime practicing turning towards each other - harder when exhausted as you said. My partner continues to amaze me with his patience and willingness to remain present even in the midst of really tough stuff. Its been incredible for me to learn how strong and how gentle he can be with me, with our daughter and with himself.I'm grateful for my "paychecks" that, these days, come in the form of little smiles and giggile s.
Did you read my mind? Just last night my husband and I had a few minutes of down time and we were both so drained and tired, we had nothing for each other. I had the conscious thought "Wow, we need to give "us" a little attention." I was thinking about a date night or weekend get away which is a big deposit, but those big deposits don't last long without the little daily deposits!!! Thanks for the great ideas.I'm grateful for a great man to share this journey with
Just last night my husband and I were both so tired and ready for bed when we sat down to do yesterday's template together. It was such a fun experience for us to share that time and energy . We ended up staying up late and I have to say the gain of sharing our knowledge was worth the loss of sleep.I'm grateful for Time to sleep in
Even though our kids are older, they have to be fed and ushered to school in the morning. In the last 5 months I have had the blessing of my husbands' semi-retirement which allows for a more flexible schedule- he sometimes lets me sleep in a bit on school days gets the kids ready and takes them off to school while I get a few extra morning zzz's (the best kind). I love that he knows just what I like!I'm grateful for being home after a business trip away.
My honey and I have known each other since we were 20 and 22. What I loved about him then and what I love about him now is: he makes me laugh like no one else, his creativity comes out in unexpected and amazing ways, and he jumps into the deep end of life with me. :)I'm grateful for a committed, loving, husband and amazing family
Your post did come at the perfect time. A weekend of birthday celebration for our 4 year old has us exhausted from love, connection and play. Thank you for the reminder on turning towards each other. I'm grateful for this amazing, committed partner - who always goes the extra mile and is all in, all the time.I'm grateful for live with three energetic fellas.
My husband loves me completely and unconditionally. I've never before experienced the love and support he gives me day in and day out. I don't say that to elicit sympathy, but because it absolutely bowls me over that someone (besides myself) can accept and love who I am without reservation. I am blessed beyond words to have a partner of this caliber. And he's pretty cute too :)