I had to get honest with myself
So, how do I move through the holiday season and flow into the new year without getting completely overdone?
Below are some of the steps I take to shift up how I relate with my most important Ones in the midst of the holidays.
Before I jump in, I want to say that this is what I need to do for myself. It may or may not be what you need. If you are an extrovert, it's possible that this sounds crazy to you. If that's the case, let go of my examples but do ask yourself, "What's my version of this based on who I am and how I choose to interact with my others?"
My intention in sharing this is not to say "Do it this way." It's to offer an example of a process of finding one's own way.
Oh, and it's possible that even if it's not what you need, it will give you insight into some of the people around you -- partners, children, parents, relatives -- who may have very different styles of relating than you.
Either way, I hope this is useful.
Here's what I started doing...
I had to get honest with myself.
Instead of judging, I decided to own the fact that this is how I am. I love connecting AND it drains me. Both are true and it's OK to be that way. It doesn't make me wrong and it doesn't make them wrong. It just is what it is. It sounds simple now, but it wasn't when I first discovered this fact about myself. I genuinely thought there was something wrong with me!
Once I did, I was able to recognize the steps I needed to take with myself, first, and then with my people, so I could show up and savor the season.
How about you? Here are some questions to consider so you can get honest with yourself.
Where am I on the continuum between introverted and extroverted?
How much stimulation can I handle before I get dysregulated and overdone?
What are the signs that I’m getting overdone?
What can I do for myself when I notice I’m getting overdone?
Read the next blog in the series, I needed a Plan
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Give yourself 3 hours to pause, write and hear yourself so you can gain clarity about what lies ahead and set some clear intentions for how you want to move through the holidays.